Laura, my husband’s mother-in-law, gave me an envelope at our anniversary party. Inside, I thought it was a thoughtful gift, but it was actually a shocking bill demanding payment for raising my husband. I couldn’t say anything because of how rude her request was.
Laura’s bossiness and tendency to put other people down have been a source of stress in our relationship for a long time. Edward and Michael, her boys, have told stories about the hard times they had as kids, including scream matches and emotional problems.
When Edward told me about his past, I promised to be there for him and help him get better. I had no idea that Laura’s behaviour would keep getting in the way of our lives.
The huge bill she sent me had a long list of costs, from nappies to college fees, adding up to a crazy $50,000. It took a lot of nerve for her.
At first, Edward thought it was a joke, but I knew Laura was dead serious. Her actions were a clear attempt to force me to give in by making me feel guilty.
I wanted to stand up for myself and Edward, so I thought of an answer that would help Laura understand how bad her actions were. I made a fake bill that listed all the mental damage she had done to me, from putting up with her criticism to going to therapy.
I sent Laura the bill in the mail and included a note that made it clear what my limits were. The result was a surprise: she became very quiet.
When we saw each other again, Laura couldn’t look me in the eyes, and I saw her blush for the first time. It was a small win, but it was important.
I stood up for Edward and the weak child he used to be when I stood up for myself. He may be scarred by what his mother did, but I’m proud to have fought for our honour.
I realised at that moment that setting limits isn’t about being rude; it’s about taking back your sense of self-worth. Jane raised Edward, but I helped him get better and find love.
Even though my answer was not typical, it made my point clear: I will not stand for abuse or trickery. I don’t feel bad about that.
