As a happy grandmother of five, I’ve always been there for my grandchildren, helping them with both money and emotions when things went wrong. But I recently got into a fight with my granddaughter Eloise because we gave her a wedding gift from her list. She said my husband and I were cheap.
The gift was an air fryer, which we thought was a nice and useful thing to give. However, Eloise was upset because she thought we didn’t show her enough love and respect. She even said we didn’t care about her or her wedding.
The way Eloise reacted shocked and hurt my husband and me. We were always kind to our grandchildren. For example, we paid for Eloise’s college and gave each of them a big cash gift before they got married. But the way Eloise was acting made us wonder if she really did value our love and support.
No matter how shocked we were at first, we chose to believe Eloise. We tried to make things right by giving her a beautiful set of china. We didn’t give her the cash gift, though, because we thought she hadn’t earned it.
We didn’t get mad at Eloise until she found out later that we had given the cash gift to her brothers. She then accused us of being unfair. We told her that our choice was based on how she reacted to the wedding gift at first, and that we thought she needed to learn how important it is to respect and be thankful.
Eloise begged us to change our minds, but we refused. We love our niece very much, but we also know that what you do has results. We hope that Eloise will learn from this and realise how important love, respect, and thanks are.
As the holidays get closer, we’re sorry that Eloise has chosen to skip Christmas. Even if it means a calmer Christmas season, we’re not going to change our minds. We’ll always welcome Eloise back whenever she’s ready to make things right and remember what she did wrong.
