I’ll never forget the day I went to the hospital to pick up my wife Suzie and our twin babies. I thought I would be happy to see Suzie again, but instead I was shocked to find that she had disappeared, leaving only a mysterious note.
“Goodbye” was written on the note. Watch out for them. “Ask your mum WHY she did that to me.” I was shocked. Suzie seemed fine while she was in the hospital, so I didn’t understand why she would leave so quickly. The fact that the note talked about my mother made me even more worried and confused.
As I looked for answers, I talked to my mom because I thought she might have had something to do with Suzie going missing. It turned out that my mom had been putting down Suzie for a while, making her feel like she wasn’t good enough and liked. This news surprised and upset me, and it was too late for me to realise that my mother’s acts had made Suzie feel worse.
When I looked into it more, Suzie’s friend Sara told me that Suzie had been feeling stuck and stressed by the pregnancy and my mom’s constant judgement. Suzie was afraid that my mother would turn me against her, and her disappearance was a last-ditch effort to get away from her pain.
Once Suzie came back after a year, we began the long and hard process of healing and rebuilding our relationship. Suzie was able to get over her postpartum sadness and feelings of not being good enough with help and therapy. As we got through this hard time together, I realised that my mom’s actions had hurt us in a way that couldn’t be fixed, but that our love and commitment to each other could get us through anything.
