Planning the right wedding is very important to many brides. But one bride’s desire to be perfect has caused a stir and made people wonder what the limits of proper wedding behavior are. She asked people on Reddit’s “Am I The Asshole” forum what they thought about her strict wedding rules, and they had a huge reaction.
The bride and groom sent their guests a list of rules that they would not bend on, but a lot of them cancelled. The rules said that phones could not be used during a “unplugged ceremony” or dinner, except in situations. Most guests knew why the dinner wasn’t allowed at the ceremony, but many thought it was too strict.
Other rules said that everyone had to wear black. Men had to wear tuxedos and women had to wear dresses. Guests like the bride’s aunt, who had just started wearing bright clothes again after losing her husband, were upset by this. The bride’s future sister-in-law, who has body dysmorphia and wears pants, was also turned down for an exception.
Also, after being measured for pre-ordered dresses, bridesmaids were told to keep their weight steady. The bride’s mother was furious about this rule and said the wedding was “doomed from the start.” There were threats from some women to not show up, and lots of last-minute cancellations.
The last straw was when the bride asked that the flower girl, who was the daughter of her maid of honor, be left with a babysitter during the service. The flower girl was lost because the maid of honor said no.
A lot of people on Reddit thought the couple was unfair because they were rigid and controlling. A lot of people said that couples should be able to plan their own weddings, but guests shouldn’t have to follow through with unreasonable requests.
The backlash brings up important questions about how to behave at a wedding and what guests should expect. Where does fair planning end and control that is too strict start? Should guests put their own wants and needs ahead of what the couple wants?
Most people agree that this couple’s strict rules have gone too far, making family and friends angry and putting the party at risk. What do you think about this wedding fuss?
